If questionable photos of you circulated online -- and they were real -- what would you do?
The question crossed my mind after I found this article, which analyzes public figures' reactions to recent photo scandals.
The moral? Denial is not the best option.
Of course, that lesson is easy to embrace when you're not directly involved in the situation. But I understand how a first instinct approach would embrace denial.
Deny, deny, deny...and hope it all goes away. Too bad that rarely happens.
But at the same time, it's not like an immediate confession makes everything better, either.
You probably won't get a round of applause for standing up at a photo scandal's onset and saying, "Yeah, that's totally me."
What would you do?
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Sex and the City forever!
You know the trick.
You're too nervous to directly discuss a relationship issue with your significant other, so you conveniently schedule some quality TV watching time during a "Sex and the City" marathon.
Oh wow. What a strange coincidence. We just happen to be watching an episode that revolves around saying "I love you."
"What do you think about the show, honey?"
Sound familiar?
Here's one of the long-term effects of "Sex and the City":
Jezebel details recent research suggesting college students "were twice as likely to discuss sexual issues with their partners after seeing a similar conversation on the show."
The study pertains largely to sexual health issues, but I'd suggest the series continues to spur conversations spanning multiple aspects of the relationship world.
I don't like everything about "Sex and the City" -- I'm a particularly harsh critic of the films -- but I appreciate the many social conversations it inspired.
Thoughts?
You're too nervous to directly discuss a relationship issue with your significant other, so you conveniently schedule some quality TV watching time during a "Sex and the City" marathon.
Oh wow. What a strange coincidence. We just happen to be watching an episode that revolves around saying "I love you."
"What do you think about the show, honey?"
Sound familiar?
Here's one of the long-term effects of "Sex and the City":
Jezebel details recent research suggesting college students "were twice as likely to discuss sexual issues with their partners after seeing a similar conversation on the show."
The study pertains largely to sexual health issues, but I'd suggest the series continues to spur conversations spanning multiple aspects of the relationship world.
I don't like everything about "Sex and the City" -- I'm a particularly harsh critic of the films -- but I appreciate the many social conversations it inspired.
Thoughts?
Wednesday is really hump day
There's a good chance partiers are friskiest on Wednesday nights, according to recent study results described in the New York Times.
Surprised?
Weeknight partiers seem to have a distinctly different vibe than the people you see on weekends.
I'm left with just one question: Is Wednesday the new Saturday?
Surprised?
Weeknight partiers seem to have a distinctly different vibe than the people you see on weekends.
I'm left with just one question: Is Wednesday the new Saturday?
Monday, June 6, 2011
Monday power anthem: Sex and Candy!
Today we have a very special Monday power anthem: video footage of Marcy Playground performing "Sex and Candy" at Summer Side Show 2011 Saturday night in Columbus!
Understandably, it was the second to last song in their set list. They followed it with a cover of "Hallelujah," also known as the obligatory "it's time to go home" song.
They're actually pretty good musicians. I enjoyed their other material, not to mention their willingness to tolerate a bunch of kids attending their concert mainly for one song.
(Thanks to Alan Riquelmy for making this video!)
Friday, June 3, 2011
Feminism gone wild
Katie's excellent column made me have all sorts of internal debates about the parameters of feminism.
Those debates follow "Why Being Drunk Is A Feminist Issue," an article that recently made waves online. Chief among the writer's assertions:
It’s clear to me that women need to question how we play into binge drinking culture so readily. We need to learn and stick to our own alcohol limits. We need to stop equating celebration with getting blasted. We need to stop dulling upset and hurt feelings with alcohol.
And perhaps most importantly, when we’re out, we need to watch out for our friends and other women who may have had too much.
Amid the praise it has received, the piece has also been criticized as possibly leaning too far in blaming rape victims. That's a tough debate, and one I won't attempt to tackle in what's supposed to be a concise post.
I will, however, say that about two years ago I became keenly aware of the irresponsibility dominating the drinking scene.
There wasn't a particular moment that spurred the realization.
Rather, it was a combination of factors -- like a prevalence of alcohol-centered social events with zero focus on designated drivers.
Sure, these discussions aren't overtly rooted in gender issues.
But they underscore priorities that are hardly exempt from feminism's umbrella: common sense and basic safety.
Those debates follow "Why Being Drunk Is A Feminist Issue," an article that recently made waves online. Chief among the writer's assertions:
It’s clear to me that women need to question how we play into binge drinking culture so readily. We need to learn and stick to our own alcohol limits. We need to stop equating celebration with getting blasted. We need to stop dulling upset and hurt feelings with alcohol.
And perhaps most importantly, when we’re out, we need to watch out for our friends and other women who may have had too much.
Amid the praise it has received, the piece has also been criticized as possibly leaning too far in blaming rape victims. That's a tough debate, and one I won't attempt to tackle in what's supposed to be a concise post.
I will, however, say that about two years ago I became keenly aware of the irresponsibility dominating the drinking scene.
There wasn't a particular moment that spurred the realization.
Rather, it was a combination of factors -- like a prevalence of alcohol-centered social events with zero focus on designated drivers.
Sure, these discussions aren't overtly rooted in gender issues.
But they underscore priorities that are hardly exempt from feminism's umbrella: common sense and basic safety.
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Summer reading for couples
Honey, let's get on the same page.
I couldn't resist using that line to begin a blog post about whether couples who read together stay together.
YourTango recommends some books for couples to read together this summer.
I initially called the idea cheesy. But upon further reflection, I realized it could be a great impetus for discussions. That is, assuming you don't read a Nicholas Sparks novel together.
That's the thing: Book choice is key.
I'd assume that boyfriend/girlfriend reading clubs aren't too common simply because it's hard to find a book both parties want to read.
Any suggestions?
I couldn't resist using that line to begin a blog post about whether couples who read together stay together.
YourTango recommends some books for couples to read together this summer.
I initially called the idea cheesy. But upon further reflection, I realized it could be a great impetus for discussions. That is, assuming you don't read a Nicholas Sparks novel together.
That's the thing: Book choice is key.
I'd assume that boyfriend/girlfriend reading clubs aren't too common simply because it's hard to find a book both parties want to read.
Any suggestions?
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Negging
During a recent night on the local club scene, a guy gave me this line: "You don't wear a lot of makeup, do you?"
I fired back with a speech about how I woke up at 5:30 a.m., endured a stressful day at work and still hadn't eaten dinner.
Which prompted him to backpedal a bit, explaining that his question was only meant to emphasize a belief that I had so much natural beauty that I didn't need makeup. Um, sure.
Either way, I walked away insulted.
Was this type of exchange an isolated incident? Maybe not.
Jezebel features an interesting piece on "negging," which Urban Dictionary defines as "low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances."
Pretty appealing, right? Note the sarcasm.
Tell me if you've seen this pickup strategy on the local meet market. Does it ever work?
I fired back with a speech about how I woke up at 5:30 a.m., endured a stressful day at work and still hadn't eaten dinner.
Which prompted him to backpedal a bit, explaining that his question was only meant to emphasize a belief that I had so much natural beauty that I didn't need makeup. Um, sure.
Either way, I walked away insulted.
Was this type of exchange an isolated incident? Maybe not.
Jezebel features an interesting piece on "negging," which Urban Dictionary defines as "low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances."
Pretty appealing, right? Note the sarcasm.
Tell me if you've seen this pickup strategy on the local meet market. Does it ever work?
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