Monday, January 31, 2011

Life as a 20-something

I recently mentioned reporter Sara Pauff will now post the weekend lineup on Fridays. Sara's taking over many of the nightlife duties as I help bolster the paper's online presence.

(On that note, are you friends with us on Facebook? Do it. Now.)

In conjunction with her new role, Sara is writing a new blog, 20 Somethings. Big surprise: It's geared toward readers who are in their 20s. Check it out. Her most recent post addresses the seemingly unavoidable spread of Facebook envy.

Full disclosure: I had somewhat of an identity crisis as I prepared to transition into my new role.

When I told sources about Sara's new responsibilities, they often said, "That's good. You don't go out as much as you used to, anyway."

But I'm still fun, right?

I lost lots of sleep over a fear that I'd lost my fun factor.

To an extent, the assessment was right. When I moved to Columbus, I was single and 24. I also had an extremely high stomach tolerance for sweet drinks.

Now, I'm 28 and in a serious relationship. I drank one glass of white wine the other night and got sick to my stomach.

At the onset of my reporting job here, I vowed to just take life as it happens. I didn't want to maintain some sort of fake persona solely for the sake of having other people believe I was some ultimate party girl.

When I found a boyfriend, many people said I should ignore that portion of my life and still write from a single girl's perspective. But that wasn't my reality.

Time passes, things change and people grow up. Ignoring those facts is almost worse than not being fun.

So I'll just keep writing as usual. After all, I'm not totally an adult. I'm still not married.

Thanks for reminding me, Mom.

Monday power anthem



Bad news: It's Monday. Good news: It's Bubble Wrap Appreciation Day! Clearly, the good news outweighs the bad.

Seize the day, everybody.

Friday, January 28, 2011

What's going on this weekend?

Announcement: This is the last Friday you'll find the weekend lineup on this blog. Try to control your emotions.

Don't worry, I'm not going anywhere. I've just surrendered some of the nightlife duties to reporter Sara Pauff. More details soon.

In the meantime, let's look at this weekend's offerings. Need Friday night plans? There's an art auction at CSU and a Travis Tritt concert at the RiverCenter. Get details on both events here.

Some other options:

FRIDAY

VFW Post 5228: DJ Music, 9 p.m. free. 334-297-6493.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Broken Rail, 10 p.m. $5. 706-568-3316.

Elks Lodge 111: The Wayne Petty Band, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

Belloo’s: Claiborne and Friends, 9 p.m. $5. 706-494-1584.

Shanty Shack: Ratchit, 7 p.m. free. 706-507-3418.

Del Ranch: David McBride and Razin’ Kane, 9:30 p.m. $5. 334-297-9177 (also on Saturday).

Spicoli’s: Waiting on Tyler, 9 p.m. $5. 706-221-5252.

The Uptown Vault: DJ Kamakazi, music videos and bar games, 8 p.m. free. 706-442-8370.

VFW Post 665: The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m., $5. 706-687-6656.

Players: Karaoke by BudAbby’s 9 p.m., free. 706-653-0106 (18 and older)

The Loft: Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 10:30 p.m. $5. 706-596-8141.

J & J Lounge: Al Breeze and Warren G. 8 p.m. $15, with free buffet. 706-507-3331.

SATURDAY

Elks Lodge 111: Karaoke, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

Belloo’s: Claiborne and Friends, 9 p.m. $5. 706-494-1584.

The Uptown Vault: DJ Kamakazi, music videos and bar games, 8 p.m. free. 706-442-8370.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Matt Joiner, 10 p.m., $5. 706-568-3316.

VFW Post 665: The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m., $5 706-687-6656.

The Loft: Trances Arc, 9:30 p.m. $5, 706-596-8141.

Players: Players Club Bowling, 9 p.m.-midnight. $3 per game, no cover. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

Spicoli’s: Surgestone, 9 p.m. $5. 706-221-5252.

Shanty Shack: DJ Shane, 9 p.m. free. 706-507-3418.

I Wanna Dance With Somebody



Think Whitney Houston's hit can't get any better? You're wrong.

Gawker directed me to a couple's interpretive dance to the song. Watch it. You won't be disappointed.

Happy Friday, everybody!

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Emotional vampires

Apparently, this is the new phrase of the moment.

What's an emotional vampire?

"Emotional vampires are people who can drain your energy and suck you dry...Basically, it's a person who changes your mood for the worse just by being around," according to an article from MyDaily.

Sound familiar? Yep.

Let me know if you've ever dated an emotional vampire.

(On a semi-related note, "Dracula" is still playing at the Springer Opera House. Get details here.)

Most romantic cocktails?

When it comes to exuding a romantic vibe, all alcoholic beverages are not created equal.

Sipping cans of PBR together isn't exactly the same as indulging in two glasses of expensive wine.

Assuming such a thing exists, what's the most romantic cocktail?

The question crossed my mind after reading this collection of romantic beverages for Valentine's Day. Among the highlights: a concoction called Russian Aphrodite.

In discussing romantic cocktails, it's important to remember that a new name can turn an otherwise drab beverage into the nectar of love. The aforementioned list includes a Sexy Mary, a Valentine's Day version of the standard Bloody Mary.

So I guess it's possible to serve a can of PBR on Valentine's Day after all.

Just say it stands for Pretty Beautiful Romance.

Check out Dawn's blog for more tips on cocktails and entertaining.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Romance on the table

I haven't mastered the art of setting a table.

Make no mistake: I know about silverware and napkins. Even centerpieces. It's the food that gives me trouble.

Dinner is perhaps the aspect of my romantic relationship that makes me feel most inadequate. It's not because I can't cook.

I can, but I haven't learned how to cook for two people in a way that's more financially advantageous than buying prepared food.

Our week usually involves an XL pizza that gets us through two, maybe three, consecutive dinners. Often, Chinese takeout is involved. The huge, inexpensive portions usually span two nights of food. Bam! Five dinners, two big purchases.

Not bad, right?

Except it is, kinda.

I basked in my inadequacy after reading this newspaper profile of one of my high school classmates, who apparently makes her boyfriend dishes like shrimp linguine and butternut squash risotto on a nightly basis.

As I type this, I'm contemplating between Zaxby's and Mexican takeout.

Weigh in: Has anyone else experienced feelings of kitchen inadequacy?

Calling all Bachelor fans

Need a midday diversion? Check out this photo gallery of rejected bachelorettes' faces. It's pretty hilarious.

My "Bachelor" knowledge stops at catty comments about the show. For more discussions about the ABC reality dating show, check in with "Bachelor" queen Dawn Minty.

(via Jezebel)

Rawhides or romance?

Ah, the eternal dilemma of pets versus romantic partners.

A poll recently tackled the issue, revealing that most people would choose their partner over their pet. But a "sizable" group of respondents (14 percent) picked their pet.

Unmarried people are more likely to choose their pet over their mate, poll results revealed.

I found the poll shortly stumbling upon this article, in which some researchers warn against kissing your pets and letting them sleep with you at night.

Why? Researchers remind pet owners that potentially dangerous bacteria live in the mouths of felines and canines.

Ouch.

Who are you more likely to kick out of bed: your pet or your significant other?

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Does friends with benefits work?

The recent film release of "No Strings Attached" has made many people contemplate the feasibility of friends with benefits relationships.

Here, Tracy Clark-Flory weighs in on the question for Salon. Short summary? The friends with benefits setup sucks.

An excerpt:

When you talk to people who have been there and done that -- and even those who are continuing to do that -- the response is overwhelmingly negative. As my own former "friend with benefits" put it to me, "I've been in so many of these situations and, basically, they work until they don't."

Agree or disagree?

(via Double X)

Monday, January 24, 2011

You smell like pulled pork

Looking for a man who smells like clean laundry? You're probably from Philadelphia.

We've all heard that scent plays a role in the partners women choose, but this research suggests the scents women find sexually appealing vary by region.

Women in Philadelphia like the smell of clean laundry. Women in New York like the scent of coffee.

The list's closest place to Columbus is Atlanta, where women apparently want a guy who smells like cherries.

Hey, at least it's better than the most sexually appealing smell in Houston: barbecue.

Monday power anthem



You can't go wrong with Hanson, right? Seize the day!

Friday, January 21, 2011

What's going on this weekend?

Hey party people! You have two cool chances to party for a cause this weekend.

Appetite for Destruction, a Guns 'N Roses tribute band, comes to Spicoli's on Saturday night. The show is also a fundraiser for the Aflac Cancer Center at Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta at Egleston. Learn more here.

Also on Saturday, there's a Heath Jackson Music Scholarship Fundraiser at Flip Flops (1111 Broadway). The party will collect money for a college scholarship in Jackson's honor. Sweet Lisa, Jasper Drive, T3io and some musicians from Poanna will perform. There's no cover, but a minimum $10 donation is required. Doors open at 8 p.m.

Some other highlights:

FRIDAY

VFW Post 5228: DJ music, 9 p.m. free. 334-297-6493.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Six to the Wheels, The Great Affairs, 10 p.m. $5. 706-568-3316.

Elks Lodge 111: The Wayne Petty Band, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

Belloo’s: The Relics, 9 p.m. $5. 706-494-1584.

Shanty Shack: DJ music, 9 p.m. free. 706-507-3418. (also on Saturday)

Del Ranch: Conley Bros. band, 9:30 p.m. $5. 334-297-9177. (also on Saturday)

Spicoli’s: DJ music, 8 p.m. free. 706-221-5252.

The Uptown Vault: DJ Kamakazi, music videos and bar games, 8 p.m. free. 706-442-8370.

VFW Post 665: The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. $5. 706-687-6656. (also on Saturday)

Players: Karaoke by BudAbby’s, 9 p.m. free. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

The Loft: Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 9 p.m. $5. 706-596-8141.

SATURDAY

VFW Post 5228: Donnie Thomas and band, 9 p.m. $5. 334-297-6493.

Elks Lodge 111: Karaoke, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

Belloo’s: The Relics, 9 p.m. $5. 706-494-1584.

The Uptown Vault: DJ Kamakazi, music videos and bar games, 8 p.m. free. 706-442-8370.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Double Barrel Democracy, 10 p.m. $5. 706-568-3316.

The Loft: The Good Doctor, 9:30 p.m. $5. 706-596-8141.

Players: Players Club Bowling, 9 p.m.-midnight. $3 per game, no cover. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

Thursday, January 20, 2011

312 fights a year

The average couple argues 312 times a year, recent research suggests. The majority of those fights apparently result from "minor annoyances."

The research comes from Betterbathrooms.com. So naturally, the list of minor annoyances is heavy on stuff like hair in the sink and dirty marks in the toilet.

Let's play a guessing game: Do you and your partner fight more or less than 312 times a year?

What's going on tonight?

Hey party people! Here's your Thursday night lineup:

Fountain City Coffee: Open mike, 8 p.m. free. 706-494-6659. (all ages)

The Uptown Vault: Starlight Karaoke, 5 p.m. free. 706-442-8370.

SoHo Bar & Grill: The Bastard Suns, 10 p.m. free. 706-568-3316.

Spicoli’s: Stereomonster, 10 p.m. free. 706-221-5252.

Del Ranch: Henry Conley open mike, 9:30 p.m. free. 334-297-9177.

Players: Girls’ Night Out with free pool on hourly tables, 6:30 p.m. until close. Free. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

It's not fun...



Here's an interesting article about how illegal immigrants struggle in the dating world.

Among the biggest challenges? They don't have government IDs, which limits date night options. No driver's license means no trips to bars. A lack of ID also means no airplane trips.

We all make relationship compromises. Your date can't stand loud music? Ditch your favorite crowded venue in the name of spending a night together. Your date's a vegetarian? Expand your list of local dining options.

Realistically, most romantic sacrifices aren't really sacrifices.

But would you date someone without a government ID?

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Hunting season for singles?

That headline comes from this Denver Post article, which says now through March is "prime hunting season for singles who have resolved to find a relationship."

So...ready, set, hunt!

That's not as easy as it sounds, right?

If you're single and looking, you've probably heard this line: "You'll only find a relationship once you stop trying so hard."

When it comes to dating, there's the eternal conflict of actively pursuing a new relationship versus sitting back and letting life happen. You'll likely bound to be criticized no matter which approach you take. Sorry.

On that note, I'll refer you once again to this upcoming speeding dating event. Good luck.

Opposites don't attract?

Sorry, star-crossed lovers. Slate attempts to debunk a belief that opposites attract in relationships. An excerpt:

It's an established tenet of social psychology that similarities rather than differences—whether in attitude, personality, age, income, race, or religion—produce a lasting relationship.

"Opposites tend to attract in the short term, but not in the long-term," says Catherine Sanderson, a psychology professor at Amherst College who teaches a class on close relationships. "Over the long haul, one of the bigger predictors of success in relationships and marriages is similarity."

Agree or disagree?

(via Jezebel)

Monday, January 17, 2011

Monday power anthem



Let's start the week with some "November Rain." Bonus points for anyone who watches the full nine-minute music video.

Interestingly enough, there's a Guns N' Roses tribute band playing at Spicoli's Saturday night. Stay tuned for more details.

I love you, Slash!

Friday, January 14, 2011

What's going on this weekend?

Weekend highlight: Downtown Columbus hot spot Flip Flops, 1111 Broadway, celebrates its second anniversary this weekend with live entertainment and giveaways.

Hit the bar Friday or Saturday and you might win one of the door prizes, which include flat-screen TVs, Blu-ray players and more. Local act T3io entertains. Cover is $5.

Some more options:

FRIDAY

VFW Post 5228: DJ music, 9 p.m. free. 334-297-6493.

Elks Lodge 111: The Wayne Petty Band, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

The Loft: Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 9 p.m. $5. 706-596-8141.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Fiddler Blues Band, 10 p.m. $5. 706-568-3316.

Del Ranch: David McBride and Razin’ Kane, 9:30 p.m. $5. 334-297-9177. (also on Saturday)

Shanty Shack: Haywire, 7-11 p.m. free. 706-507-3418.

Belloo’s: Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. $5. 706-494-1584.

Spicoli’s: SamRoc & GRD, $5 cover starts at 9 p.m. 706-221-5252.

The Uptown Vault: DJ Kamakazi, music videos and bar games, 8 p.m. free. 706-442-8370. (also on Saturday)

VFW Post 665: The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. $5. 706-687-6656. (also on Saturday)

Players: Karaoke by BudAbby’s, 9 p.m. free. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

SATURDAY

VFW Post 5228: Donnie Thomas and band, 9 p.m. $5. 334-297-6493.

Spicoli’s: Mindblender, $5 cover starts at 9 p.m. 706-221-5252.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Meghan Elliott, Midnight Chainsaw, 10 p.m. $5. 706-568-3316.

The Loft: Back Row Baptists, 9 p.m. $5. 706-596-8141.

Belloo’s: Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. $5. 706-494-1584.

Elks Lodge 111: Karaoke, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

Shanty Shack: DJ Shane, 8 p.m. free. 706-507-3418.

Players: Players Club Bowling, 9 p.m.-midnight. $3 per game, no cover. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

How to get the man of your dreams

Experiencing early traces of Valentine's Day stress?

HowToGetTheManofYourDreams.com is here to help.

Yes, it's a real website. And yes, I'm sorry I didn't jump on that domain name when it was available.

Anyway, I received a press release that says the site is offering free memberships for a limited time.

As a member, you'll get unlimited access to the Premium Content articles in the site's dating and relationship archives.

After quickly perusing the site's content, here's my favorite headline: "Why do I always attract crazy men?" Maybe that answer alone is worth a membership.

Good luck, daters.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Childless by choice

Does a man who chooses not to have children face the same stigma as a woman who makes the same decision?

I asked that question after reading one man's account of his decision to have a vasectomy at 28. An excerpt:

I had a vasectomy at 28, and since then I’ve been called selfish and immature for permanently saving myself from midnight bottle feedings. (OK, maybe I am a little selfish and immature.) Mom cried when she found out. Some women refused to go on dates.

The piece contains some interesting research, and Double X accurately notes "there's a rich arena of gender analysis that (the writer) basically skips over."

I think it's difficult to view deliberately childless men and women on the same level.

Women grow to accept a notion of their ticking biological clocks, while discussions of a male biological clock are much murkier.

Am I right? Weigh in.

What's going on tonight?

Here are some Thursday night party options:

Fountain City Coffee: Open mike, 8 p.m. free. 706-494-6659. (all ages)

The Uptown Vault: Starlight Karaoke, 5 p.m. free. 706-442-8370.

Spicoli’s: Fast Times, 9 p.m. free. 706-221-5252.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Shortwave Society, 10 p.m. free. 706-568-3316.

Del Ranch: Henry Conley open mike, 9:30 p.m. free. 334-297-9177.

Players: Girls’ Night Out with free pool on hourly tables, 6:30 p.m. until close. Free. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Career versus marriage?

Would you take extended time off work to fine-tune your marriage?

One women did it, and wrote about her experience in an e-mail to the Wall Street Journal's Juggle blog. The 29-year-old childless woman took time off work to focus on "building a home and extending the honeymoon period."

The mini-sabbatical lasted three months. Would you do the same?

It's kind of an unfair question, since few of us have the financial freedom to even contemplate the decision. Let's ignore that element for a moment.

I understand the importance of working on your relationships. And as someone who's never been married, I'm probably in a poor position to comment on the topic.

But I think "building a home" is a two-person job. One person taking time off work to fine-tune the relationship doesn't do much to establish a groundwork of mutual understanding.

Where do you stand?

(via My Daily)

Today's sappy wedding video



Shopping mall + flash mob + wedding = Viral video bliss

Let me know what you think. And for more marriage-related items, read Katie's blog.

(via Jezebel)

Wednesday nightlife option

Happy Hump Day! Hopefully you've recovered from the excitement of last night's "Teen Mom 2" premiere. If you missed the show, here's my recap.

Looking for a new Wednesday party option? River City Grill, 2301 Airport Thruway, has added live music on Wednesdays.

Tonight, David Schwimmer and The Conley Brothers perform 7-9 p.m. No, it's not THAT David Schwimmer...or is it?

There's no cover and the shows are open to all ages. Call 706-221-7903.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Pajamas are evil

I'll kick off today's blog updates with an obligatory sentiment: War Eagle!

I wanted to post something that encompassed Auburn's victory and dating, but I scoured the Internet and didn't have much luck. That is, with the exception of this story about an Oregon fan who wanted to marry an "Auburn hottie" and then annul the marriage after the game.

So I'll switch gears a bit and talk about pajamas.

Gawker tactfully notes, "Dear America: You cannot wear your pajamas at all times."

The piece is a reaction to the rise of Pajama Jeans and Jumpin' Jammerz, not to mention the overall tendency to wear flannel pants 24-7. The writer offers this harsh wakeup call:

Sometimes you put on pants with a zipper and a button, a real shirt, and shoes and go out into the cold hard world and do something with your life. No one wants to, but you have to, for the sake of decency and civilization as we know it!

Be something other than some stupid corporation's drooling, whining cash machine and make yourself into a real, whole, grown-up person. A good first step is always getting dressed.

Well said.

Also, with no offense to Gawker, I'll note I wrote a piece with the same message one month ago. My column even includes this line: "You can't wear pajama pants everywhere."

Weigh in with your thoughts on Auburn, pajamas and everything in between.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Speed dating in Columbus

UPDATE: The event is now open to people 25-45.

Single? Try an upcoming speed dating event.

It's Sunday, Jan. 30, from 4:30 to 7 p.m. Open to people 25-45, the event will include a series of eight-minute dates at Springhill Suites on Whittlesey Road. Cost is $34.88. Click here to register.

Local speed dating is a funny thing. I always get calls and e-mail from readers complaining that the bar scene is the only way to meet dates in Columbus.

A speed dating event comes along and -- BAM! -- you'd think tons of people would sign up.

That hasn't happened in the past.

Unfortunately, many of the speed dating events I covered were eventually canceled due to lack of participation. Why? I have a few guesses.

For starters, Columbus still doesn't fall into "big city" territory. You might already know at least one person at your speed dating event. Which can cut into your optimism.

More importantly, we have an extremely skewed gender ratio due to the military. It's likely many of the single guys who sign up will be in the military, which can be disheartening if female participants aren't into military types.

But I hope the upcoming speed dating event succeeds. We need proof that relationship's aren't only formed in nightlife's traditional meet market.

Monday power anthem



Stay warm, everybody! To direct your attention away from the icy weather, I've chosen "Burning Love" as today's power anthem.

The song choice is also a belated birthday celebration for Elvis, although you'll see I opted for Wynonna's version from "Lilo & Stitch." Yes, I'm a fan. No shame.

Seize the day!

Thursday, January 6, 2011

What's going on this weekend?

Bounce between downtown Columbus hot spots during a First Friday Block Party. One $10 cover gets you into the majority of Broadway bars on Friday night.

Feeling ambitious this weekend? Try running the Red Nose Half Marathon on Saturday morning in downtown Columbus. It's free and action starts at 8 a.m. Learn more here.

Also, there's a cool band playing Saturday at The Loft. The Ragbirds hail from Michigan and describe their sound as "a fusion of folk rock and pop hooks over danceable world rhythms stirred with a Celtic fiddler’s bow." Show starts at 9 p.m., cover is $5. Learn more here.

Here are some other options:

FRIDAY

VFW Post 5228: DJ music, 9 p.m. free. 334-297-6493.

Elks Lodge 111: The Wayne Petty Band, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

Spicoli’s: Haywire, $5 cover starts at 9 p.m. 706-221-5252.

Belloo’s: Big Woody & the Splinters, 9 p.m. $5. 706-494-1584. (also on Saturday)

Players: Karaoke by BudAbby’s, 9 p.m. free. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

SoHo Bar & Grill: Pistoltown, 10 p.m. $5. 706-568-3316.

The Loft: Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 9 p.m. block party cover. 706-596-8141.

The Uptown Vault: DJ Kamakazi, music videos and bar games, 8 p.m. block party cover. 706-442-8370.

Shanty Shack: David McBride and Razin’ Kane, 7 p.m. free. 706-507-3418.

VFW Post 665: The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. $5. 706-687-6656. (also on Saturday)

Del Ranch: Strokin’ Dixie, 9:30 p.m. $5. 334-297-9177.

SATURDAY

VFW Post 5228: Donnie Thomas and band, 9 p.m. $5. 334-297-6493.

Elks Lodge 111: Karaoke, 8 p.m. free. 706-569-6720.

The Uptown Vault: Organx SamRoc & GRD, 8 p.m. 706-442-8370.

Spicoli’s: Whisky Bent, $5 cover starts at 9 p.m. 706-221-5252.

Del Ranch: Strokin’ Dixie, 9:30 p.m. $5 334-297-9177.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Long Hot Summer, 10 p.m. $5. 706-568-3316.

Players: Players Club Bowling, 9 p.m.-midnight. $3 per game, no cover. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

America's Drunkest Cities

Fortunately, Columbus isn't included in this photo gallery of America's Top 40 Drunkest Cities. Atlanta didn't make the cut, either.

Taking the No. 1 spot? Milwaukee. As someone who lived in Wisconsin for four years, I'm not surprised.

My other (sort of) hometown, Sacramento, placed 23rd on the list. Surprisingly, it placed higher than traditional "party" cities like New Orleans (No. 25) and Las Vegas (No. 36).

The list is based on data like average drinks per person per month, percent of adults who are heavy drinkers, percent of adults who are binge drinkers and deaths per 100,000 residents from alcoholic liver disease.

The data comes from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, as well as consumer research organization Experian Simmons.

Valentine's tips. Already.

A dedicated PR person clearly knows my weakness. I can't resist a story pitch that includes advice on "getting that rock by V-Day."

Yes, I received an e-mail with that phrase in the subject line today. It was a pitch to interview Donna Estes Antebi, an author and Huffington Post blogger.

Hopefully I'll get engaged after reading the tips in this e-mail. I've cut and pasted some of the text below.

Sonya,
Donna Estes Antebi – recently on KTLA knows what’s “up” … and she’s got just the tip for you to stroke your man’s – ahem, ego! – just right so you’ll have that rock in no time!

7 Easy Ways to Please Your Man This V-Day (so he stays) according to Donna

1. Drop It Like It’s Hot (the extra pounds, that is) – He may never admit your butt looks big, but he notices, and his baby’s got back.

2. Just Say Yes! Yes! Yes! – Don’t make being too tired a habit, unless you want him to get tired of you. Just do it!

3. Size Him Up – It’s ok to exaggerate a tad and tell him he’s larger than life. Oh, baby; oh, baby.

4. Myth-ter Perfect – Accept that there’s no such thing as the perfect man. At least you have one to complain about!

5. Know when to zip it (and when not to) – He wants to talk about him, too.

6. Don't Be a Bitch – It takes under 30 seconds to pick his socks up off the floor and much, much longer to find someone new again.

7. Plan a staycation – get away by getting in bed!

Dumper or dumpee?

Jezebel directs us to research suggesting guys like women more if they've been rejected, rather than the rejector, in their last relationship.

Women prefer guys who were the dumper, however.

The conclusions made me enter a dark abyss of contemplation centered on gender roles. Not pretty.

Instead of rehashing that mental dialogue, I'll leave you with a simpler question:

Do you have any concerns about dating someone who was dumped in his/her last relationship?

What's going on tonight?

Hey party people! It's $1 daiquiri night at Flip Flops, 1111 Broadway. No cover for women, men pay $5. Here are some other Thursday nightlife options:

Fountain City Coffee: Open mike, 8 p.m. free. 706-494-6659. (all ages)

The Uptown Vault: Starlight Karaoke, 5 p.m. free. 706-442-8370.

Players: Girls’ Night Out with free pool on hourly tables, 6:30 p.m. until close. Free. 706-653-0106. (18 and older)

Spicoli’s: Stereomonster, 10 p.m. free. 706-221-5252.

SoHo Bar & Grill: Heroes, Fairbanks, 10 p.m. free. 706-568-3316.

Del Ranch: Henry Conley open mike, 9:30 p.m. free. 334-297-9177.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

The Notebook causes breakups?

Chances are, you have a relationship story involving "The Notebook." Even if you're a dude.

The drama/romance has a way of weaseling itself into relationships. The end result usually boils down to either extreme affection or "why can't we be like that?"

"Notebook" star Ryan Gosling recently suggested the film causes breakups. His reasoning: Women watch "The Notebook," see the grand romantic gestures and ditch their relationship because it's not at that level.

Sound silly? Sure. We're not supposed to base our real-life expectations on fiction.

But that doesn't prevent us from doing so. Even if we don't model a movie's exact sequence of events, works of fiction often encourage us to want more and expect more out of life. That's not always a bad thing, assuming you keep your expectations in check.

Share your "Notebook" stories in the comments section. I've supplied a barf bucket for all you "Notebook" haters.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Engagementcation

Hmm...kids these days are getting engaged during vacations. Let's make up a cute new buzz word to describe the trend.

How about engagementcation?

USA Today describes the alleged travel trend, which boils down to trips dedicated to marriage proposals. It doesn't seem like a major revolution in relationships.

Still, the news made made me wonder: Would you rather get engaged in an exotic location, or at your home base?

(via SavvySugar)

Social jet lag

Want to add another condition to your long list of medical ailments? Say hello to social jet lag.

ABC News introduces us to the condition, which arrives after the hurried nature of the holidays winds down.

Thanks to shopping and late-night parties, you didn't get enough sleep and now you're sitting at a cubicle feeling out of whack.

Sound familiar?

I think most people are a little "off" this week. Part of it is because the holidays have wrapped up. The expectations that accompany a new year also play a role.

What's the best cure for social jet lag? Patience. Experts in the aforementioned ABC News piece say the condition is only temporary.

If you'll still feeling glum, remember the "Teen Mom 2" premiere is only a week away. Holla!

(via Jezebel)

Monday, January 3, 2011

How I spent New Year's Eve


I drank champagne. I danced. I wore too much body glitter.

Overall, it was a pretty standard New Year's Eve.

This year, I mixed it up and hit three places on the big night. We started at Elks Lodge 111. Yes, you read that correctly. Don't knock it until you try it. The drinks are cheap and the steaks are delicious.

Then, we took a quick Bud Light break at the Shanty Shack, which had already attracted a pretty solid crowd at 9 p.m. After a quick trip home to grab the camera, my boyfriend and I faced a question that threatened to damage a so-far stellar night: "Where should we be at midnight?"

We weighed all sorts of pros and cons, and ultimately ended up at Belloo's. There was no major reasoning behind that decision, aside from the fact that I thought discussing the topic any longer would lead to a major fight. The photo at the top of this page is a crowd shot from Belloo's.


We drove up and down Broadway. Many of the downtown hot spots appeared crowded. Most cover charges were more than what you'd pay on a standard weekend.

The $5 cover at Belloo's included an amazing variety of mini sandwiches. The photo above is a snapshot of the mouth-watering awesomeness. My biggest New Year's Eve pet peeve is when a bar charges an insane cover and doesn't offer anything outside the realm of a regular Saturday night.

I doubt tons of people look forward to going out on New Year's Eve. It's crowded. Things are expensive. People are annoying.

But I still cringe when I hear people my age justify New Year's Eve ambivalence with "I'm old and boring."

Then again, I guess there's really no "right" or "wrong" way to celebrate.

Whether you're flaunting a cocktail dress or a pair pajama pants, we all use the moment to reflect on a common goal: a hope this year will add yet another level of dust to the mistakes we're most intent on forgetting.

Good luck in 2011, everybody.

Monday power anthem



Happy 2011! Let's start off the new year with a mashup of the best pop hits of 2010. I'll post a roundup of New Year's Eve highlights soon.

Seize the day!