first loves

More than 10 years later, you still remember how it feels to sense you're in the company of someone you're destined to spend the rest of your life with.

In retrospect, maybe the feeling was naive. Maybe the two of you only spent three months together.

Still, it was your first love, and you should never forget your first love, right?

Wrong.

Well, at least according to this research, which says dwelling repeatedly on your first love could damage your future relationships. An excerpt:

"In an ideal world you would wake up already in your second relationship. If you had a passionate first relationship and allow that feeling to become your benchmark, it becomes inevitable that future, more adult partnerships will seem boring and a disappointment."

Sometimes I think we mistake "first love" for "first infatuation."

I think our concept of love is something that changes based on the relationships we have. So if you're really lucky, when you meet the right person, you find a first love in the present.

One that exceeds the infatuations you've had in the past.