secret dating behaviors

Sunday, I got sucked into the inescapable abyss of the Millionaire Matchmaker call-in show on XM Satellite radio.

After two weeks of listening, I've concluded 90 percent of calls to the show begin like this: "I'm a smart, sexy, intelligent woman. I don't know why guys aren't interested in me."

It's a common line, one we often use while discussing our single friends. So-and-so is such a great catch, we say, why can't she find a nice guy?

Thing is, "good person" and "good dater" are two different things.

While your friend may make for good company during your girls-only Sunday brunches, she may have an odd habit of getting a little narcissistic when she's alone with a man. Or, um, abusing her freedom to send lovey-dovey text messages.

Many of us have a standard personality and a dating personality. Unfortunately, some of our strongest traits often disappear in the latter.

In fact, The Frisky directs us to Modern Female Dating Anxiety, a condition experts say "most commonly affects self-assured women who lose their cool on the dating circuit."

"Sex and the City" made us obsessed with secret single behaviors -- things you do only when you're unattached.

But I think there's just as strong a contingent of secret dating behaviors -- personality quirks you unleash only when you're in the candlelit company of someone of the opposite sex.