Monday, September 15, 2008

doin' it daily

Is anyone else tired of all these stories about couples' pacts to have sex 365 days a year?

I get the idea. Those kind of deals make you happier. (Guys, you can stop reading now.)

But I think they can also reinforce the idea that physical intimacy can cure deeper, value-based issues, and that belief isn't always true.

Anyway, add this piece to your collection of 365-day miracle stories. Unlike others, it includes dissenting opinions from some experts, like this one:

Stress management expert Debbie Mandel, MA, thinks such sex might be a bit "gimmicky" and could lead to dissatisfaction.

"In many cases, abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. You don't have to abstain for a long period of time -- a few days off creates anticipation and eagerness. You might love steak, but having it every night diminishes the gustatory pleasure. Habituate yourself to regular sex, but don't ever let love become a routine, a robotic obligatory habit."

Do tales of once-a-day action turn you on or intimidate you?