Friday, September 5, 2008

the step

In a relationship, does skipping latex hold the same value as a lifelong commitment?

That's the question being debated on blogs nationally, thanks to this recent National Public Radio essay, "Sex without condoms is the new engagement ring."

In it, the author talks about how young couples (with that label extending to 20-somethings) now often see condomless sex as a prime indicator of monogamy. The decision to skip condoms is a major decision on the way to engagement, if not a substitute for engagement itself.

Now bear in mind that we're talking about a relationship where both partners are being screened regularly for STDs and another form of birth control (like the pill) is in place.

Many readers have blasted NPR for airing the piece. But others -- many of whom are in the essay's spotlighted demographic -- have said it points to an accurate trend. In the essay's comments section, one individual even calls condomless sex "the step" -- a huge milestone in a couple's relationship.

What do you think? Is there any truth to the NPR essay?