don't ask...

Don't tell?

Recently, I found this article, "When he drops a bomb." Immediately, the headline made me think of something that my co-workers and I like to call "the sound."

Not the case. The piece is actually about when guys disclose secrets that can potentially ruin a relationship.

Coincidentally, I read the bomb-dropping piece shortly after finishing this Elle magazine feature about a woman who days before her wedding learned her beau was forging her checks. Let's ignore the fact they met in a mental hospital and pretend this couple's story still has some real-life application.

In relationships, what hurts more:

Actively pursuing a secret and learning your worst fears are true, or having your partner disclose a damaging secret out of the blue?