Thursday, September 24, 2009

Get over it?

Your friend opens her mouth, and immediately you know how this discussion will play out.

You've heard it so many times, you could recite it backwards and blindfolded. With your hands tied behind your back.

She will take a bite of her sandwich, twirl her hair and wipe unprompted tears from her eyes.

"What's wrong?" you ask.

You feign confusion, but you know the answer. She misses her former flame, the one whose back was decorated with a tacky "rednecks rule" tattoo.

In just a minute, she will tell you that, and you will feed her insatiable appetite with the usual "you were too good for him" and "everything happens for a reason."

You know the script well. Because you've been performing it for 10 months.

Here, one woman writes about how she's still angry about being dumped -- one year after her relationship ended.

The tendency is understandable.

Now more than ever, I think we're taught to correlate our post-breakup emotions with a grieving process.

One day in bed is no longer enough. There's the self-help book phase. The personal wellness phase. The therapy phase.

It reaches a point where, when it comes to progress, you are your own worst enemy.

In the face of a breakup, what's a fair deadline for when you should be "over it"?